Sex, dating and love as a gay African man is not a simple conversation. We bring internalized shame into our relationships before the first date even starts. We navigate racial fet…
Gay African men are carrying a specific mental health burden that almost nobody talks about. The religious trauma, the mental health system that was not designed with us in mind, t…
Coming out in mainstream LGBTQIA+ spaces is often talked about as a hopeful, even celebratory moment. But for gay Africans the reality is far more complex. The fear is different. T…
I'm discussing Kito this week. The practice of luring, trapping and extorting gay men in Africa using fake dating profiles. It is one of the most urgent crises facing gay men in Af…
As we celebrate Episode 80, I'm saying things out loud that gay African men have never been allowed to say in our families, churches, queer spaces, or even to each other. I'm not g…
This episode discusses the real numbers on homosexuality in Africa, the research that has been done, what it has found, and the big difference between what African governments say…
