Podcast
Igbo, Queer, and Unfiltered
Episodes
- The Truth About Love and Dating as a Gay African Man
Sex, dating and love as a gay African man is not a simple conversation. We bring internalized shame into our relationships before the first date even starts. We navigate racial fet…
- Why Gay African Men Are Struggling in Silence
Gay African men are carrying a specific mental health burden that almost nobody talks about. The religious trauma, the mental health system that was not designed with us in mind, t…
- Coming Out to African Parents
Coming out in mainstream LGBTQIA+ spaces is often talked about as a hopeful, even celebratory moment. But for gay Africans the reality is far more complex. The fear is different. T…
- The Trap That Is Killing Gay Men(Kito)
I'm discussing Kito this week. The practice of luring, trapping and extorting gay men in Africa using fake dating profiles. It is one of the most urgent crises facing gay men in Af…
- Things Black Gay Men Are Still Not Allowed To Say
As we celebrate Episode 80, I'm saying things out loud that gay African men have never been allowed to say in our families, churches, queer spaces, or even to each other. I'm not g…
- The Uncomfortable Statistics About Homosexuality in Africa Nobody Wants to Publish
This episode discusses the real numbers on homosexuality in Africa, the research that has been done, what it has found, and the big difference between what African governments say…
- The Hypocrisy of the African Church on Homosexuality
The same church that calls gay love sinful has covered up abuse, ignored domestic violence and blessed corrupt politicians. This episode is the conversation they do not want you to…
- Homophobia was imported to Africa
African leaders call homosexuality a Western import. Same-sex relationships existed across Africa long before colonization. The criminalization came on the ships. The laws, the chu…
- What Nobody Tells You About Dating as a Gay African Man
This episode covers what most gay African men bring into dating before the first date even happens. Why secrecy does something very specific and very damaging to a relationship, ho…
- When Your African Family Chooses Religion Over You
What it costs to grow up with conditional love, how to survive and rebuild even when families do not support you, and the particular grief that a queer African child experiences wh…
- Nigerian Men Are Not As Straight As They Want You To Think
For the most part, Nigerian men are not as straight as they act. This is not about outing anyone. This is about culture, behaviour, performance, and the very specific way that hete…
- You Are Never Too Old to Be a Gay Man
There is an unspoken rule in the queer community that by a certain age, you should know who you are. Come out young. Date young. Build your identity young. And if you didn't, if yo…
- My Non-Negotiables as a Gay Igbo Man
For years, I negotiated things that were never meant to be up for debate. My identity. My dignity. My peace. My right to be seen. In this episode, I share the personal principles t…
- The Real Face of Evangelical Christianity
This episode examines evangelical Christianity from the perspective of lived experience in a candid and reflective manner. The kind that stays with you, shapes you, and sometimes l…
- I Outgrew The Version Of Me They Preferred
A version of you that appears dependable, submissive, and easy to understand is what many people become attached to. In this episode, we look at what happens when your personal gro…
- The Freedom Of Self Approval
What would your life look like if you stopped waiting for permission to be yourself? In this episode, I am getting into something deeply personal. The emotional cost of seeking app…
- I Am Not Responsible For Your Discomfort
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- Forgiving Someone Does Not Mean Letting Them Back In
Can you forgive someone and still choose to walk away? In this episode, we are getting into one of the most misunderstood parts of healing. Forgiveness and reconciliation are not t…
- I Refuse To Be Your Secret
In this episode, we delve into a distressing reality that many queer individuals, particularly those from Africa, are familiar with: the experience of being accepted in private but…
- I Stopped Explaining Myself
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